What your middle-aged self never expected

Me, at the age of 72, five years ago. Photo taken by my husband in our front yard

What’s the first thing you visualize when you contemplate getting old? Is it physical signs of aging? Wrinkles, saggy skin, gray hair, and maybe even losing an inch of height? As you can see above, all that happened to me. These changes may all be part of the package, but aging is so much more.

They say you are only as old as you feel. That’s only partially true. As I approach the end of my seventh decade, I sense a divide between the messages in my mind and body. My sense of who I am hasn’t aged. I’m still…


Book Response Review

One accident turned Mia and her husband into strangers instantly

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TW/CW: Mental Health Disorders, Suicidal Thoughts, Abuse

It Only Takes a Few Seconds To Change a Family’s Life Forever

A response review of Always Yours, Bee: From Accident to Affair to the Ever-After by Mia Hayes. Page numbers for all quotes come from this book.

Mia Hayes believed that spouses who love each other stay faithful to each other. After her husband’s accident, she learned some circumstances can change a spouse's self-concept and personality through no fault of their own. Their pain can overwhelm them and cause them to hurt those they have loved most.

My story could have happened to anyone; accidents happen, affairs happen, mental illness happens. James and I…


Whose advice about writing on Medium can you trust?

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Dear Medium Newbie,

Welcome to my favorite online writing and blogging platform. Everyone has an equal opportunity to be successful here, but not every Medium writer defines or experiences success the same way. Along my way, I’ve read a lot of advice. Some has been from longtime successful members. And too much has been from people here less than six months.

I started blogging in 2006. Besides my own blogs, I wrote on several other online platforms. …


A complete index to my Medium posts organized by subject

Collage of the aspects of my life I write about
Collage created by © Barbara Radisavljevic from her photos related to writing topics

Medium’s new profile design has made older evergreen articles harder to find. Who wants to scroll randomly down a profile to find a topic of interest? I’ve tried to make my profile easier to navigate by indexing my articles by category. Articles I like best are at the top part of each category.

As I organized this, I discovered that it’s hard to compartmentalize my life. My Christian worldview and faith permeate most articles because they influence how I view everything from relationships to nature. It was also hard to separate many of my articles about family and personal life…


Where are you in the writing process? Pregnant with a book idea or waiting to conceive?

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Readers often become book bloggers. We read widely and share the goodies we find. We also read what other book bloggers share. Sometimes readers even want to write their own books. Are you one of them?

I’ve been following the pages of other book reviewers and I came across Rosie Amber’s review of Derek’s Revenge by Mac Black. I haven’t read the book, but her review begins like this: “Derek Toozlethwaite is a journalist in Newingsworth who is trying to write a book. So far he has failed to find a suitable subject for his book….”

Many of us would…


Day 7: The longest line I’ve ever been in for one register. Author photo, © Barbara Radisavljevic

PHOTO-A-DAY CHALLENGE

Looking backwards at my week in photos from September 1–7

I’ll start this week at the end. I went to the dentist for a deep cleaning on September 7. And then I went grocery shopping. I only needed a few things, and they were out of the one thing I especially wanted, blueberries.

I couldn’t believe the lines. I got in the end of that long line on the left. The one on the right was also long, but it curved out of sight. There were only two checkers during rush hour. …


Curate your own group of writers you enjoy reading

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You can control your Medium feed

You may not always want to read the stories at the top of your daily Medium feed, and you don’t have to read them. As you follow people you enjoy reading their stories will begin to appear in your feed. You can also follow the publications you read regularly. To change what’s in your feed you can control your recommendations here. You can mute the people you don’t want to read.

Lisa Beth Wright inspired me to write this after she wrote that she had blocked a toxic writer — evidently not the first she’s blocked. We may all have…


Books not only expand our world, but they have substance the media cannot match

Part of a bookshelf in my office, author photo, © Barbara Radisavljevic

If you’re not reading, you’re missing out

Have you read a book lately? According to the New York Post, two years ago, 27% of adults said they had not even read part of a book in the past year. That’s over one-fourth of them. That means a quarter of America’s adults are missing out on the benefits reading books can give them.

From ancient times written language passed human history and knowledge from generation to generation to anyone who could read. …


Train arriving at Paso Robles Station, author photo, © Barbara Radisavljevic

When I heard the beeping at the train station, I walked over to see what the commotion was all about

Sometimes I do a photo shoot at the train station if I’m downtown. I like to watch trains come into the station and depart. While I’m waiting for the train to come in or after it leaves I walk around to see if anything unusual is happening. It gives me an excuse to get some exercise.

Today I was surprised to see the no-longer-used ticket office was being used as the new location for Covid-19 testing. Since the temperatures were in triple digits, and people appeared to be waiting outside in the sun, I was glad I didn’t need a…


Submissions are open

Bee balm and hyssop from my garden, author photo© Barbara Radisavljevic

Would you like to write for us?

We welcome submissions from thoughtful gardeners who love getting their hands into the dirt and working with God to make beauty come out of small seeds and transplants. I’m hoping to find other contributors who garden to feed their souls as well as to feed their families or simply create beauty. I’m looking for home gardeners and small farmers who want to share with photos and words what God has taught them as they have toiled in the soil.

Here’s what we’re looking for

We want to see inspirational writing from a Christian worldview related to working in one’s garden or with plants. I’d like…

Barbara Radisavljevic

Christian, bereaved adoptive mom, blogger, amateur nature photographer, voracious reader. Married 57 years. Central Coast of California. https://barbrad.com

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