Big emotions and moving gestures don’t always last. For some people they disappear almost as soon as the marriage vows and the honeymoon are over. It doesn’t take love to produce all those wonderful feelings and emotional highs that are often mistaken for love. They are more often motivated by lust. The person who genuinely loves is patient, kind, unselfish, and willing to do what’s right for the other person even if it conflicts with what he himself wants to do. Not all the time of course. Nobody is at his best all the time. True love forgives offenses and doesn’t hold a grudge.

If someone treats you that way, usually the good feelings will come afterwards. If you want to treat the other person the same way, then you probably love him or her.

The emotional fireworks usually come with infatuation. Infatuation is akin to being struck by one of Cupid’s mythical arrows. If two so struck have enough in common and enjoy each other’s company and become good friends, the friendship very often matures into love.

If this does not happen the romance fall often begins to fade away and the two people began to irritate each other more and more. A breakup often follows this stage of the relationship.

When you begin to get dizzy and hear bells, be careful. Give the relationship at least a few months to see what happens.