God helped us through our grief when our son and later our daughter died. The deaths were ten years apart. The grief in each case was different, but God met us where we were and walked through it with us. My son was the first to die, at the age of 14. As I grieved, I had a small glimpse of what my sin had cost God when he saw his son die for that sin. John 3:16 really opened to show me the heart of God.