I can certainly understand your frustration. Time is precious. But I have also known people who think it’s perfectly OK to be late. I don’t like to make generalizations, but I wonder if culture sometimes plays a part in why some people may be late.

When we lived in Los Angeles we belonged to a church that was primarily Oriental. We were used to getting to events on time. We discovered that when we hosted social events to which church friends, especially college students and other young adults, were invited, they were often late. They were late so often we used to joke about it. When someone was late they were on “Chinese time.” When they didn’t even show up, they were on “Japanese time.” Perhaps this tardiness had more to do with age than with ethnicity, since those in the church who were married or had families and jobs generally got to meetings on time.

My husband is one of those who doesn’t always seem to notice the time when he’s supposed to be somewhere. Sometimes he just has a problem estimating how long it will take him to get ready. He’s almost 80 now. I’ve always been one who tended to be early because I didn’t want to be late.

I’ve noticed that here in my rural area, many workman tend not to be on time and sometimes they don’t even show up on the scheduled day. They come when it’s convenient and seem to think that because we are retired it doesn’t really matter when they show up. They don’t seem to realize that when we are waiting for them we aren’t leaving to run necessary errands or that we might have medical appointments we need to keep.

There is a reason we set times for appointments and meetings. We need to be able to schedule our days to use time efficiently. That’s why people should respect the way they use the time of others and should not keep them waiting for appointments of any kind.

Christian, bereaved adoptive mom, blogger, amateur nature photographer, voracious reader. Married 54 years. Central Coast of California. https://barbrad.com

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