Above all, don’t keep asking what you can do. The hurting person has zero bandwidth or energy for that. If you’re a decent cook, by all means bring food. Just don’t pester anybody about what to bring or…My Brief On Grief2512Jan M FlynnBarbara RadisavljevicJun 9, 2019·1 min readWhen my son died this was very true. I had no idea what anyone should do. But my friends and neighbors knew what to do and they did it. They could have given no better gift than to just come and do what they did.